Posted by Red | October 4, 2010, 22:32 (EST) | 28 Comments
Category: TV Series

While Vampire Diaries cast members are featured in this video message, this is something I want to post about because it has a personal meaning for me. I am gay, and I was bullied. I’m nearly 32 now, and proof that no matter what ignorant peers at school may say or do you can survive it. It does get better, and you are not alone. There are people out there who do love and care about you, and when you’re out of the school system you’re going to meet more open-minded people and move in social circles where things like sexuality really don’t matter.

Be proud of who you are, and hang in there.

If you’re being bullied in school, you’re not alone. There is someone here for you – someone who cares and understands. Call The Trevor Project, a confidential, toll-free, suicide hotline for gay & questioning youth. It gets better!

 
You can follow The Trevor Project on Twitter (@Trevorproject) and visit them online at TheTrevorProject.org. If you need their help, call their toll-free hotline on 866 488-7386.

It Gets Better:

 
If you’re in the UK, then you can contact Childline on 0800 1111 or The Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90. Both of them also have email and postal contact addresses if phones aren’t your thing.

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  • ShaiLovesTay

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  • Deannakins

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  • Angelized_1st

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  • KatrinaMarie8

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  • DamonliciousTVD

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  • Marissa

    These suicides are extremely horrible. Bullying is awful. As Ellen Degeneres said, “1 death is a tragedy, but 4 deaths are a crisis.” The people who did this to the kids better be feeling something like remorse, because if they don’t then they are truly malicious people. My heart reaches out to the families who have lost their children. Gays rule!

  • tsliwinski

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  • ninaa1983

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  • Naira_Robsten

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  • 76sarahann

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  • crissycalhoun

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  • BLOSSOM

    What a great cause to be involved with and I wish that more people realised just how wrong bullying is. Whether a person is gay or not, it should NEVER be allowed to happen.

    I was bullied when I was in my first school and I can totally understand what it’s like for these poor kids who have gone through something similar.

  • Angelzdia

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  • Kristen

    I can empathize with these kids, being a “big girl” for much of my life. Had I known then, when I was being bullied, that my life would be awesome once I went to college, my childhood would have been much better. It’s REALLY true: it DOES get better!!

  • anna_maniacs

    @tvdnews I got an email reply from @KatGraham today! SO amazing!!can’t believe she takes the time to do that..xxxx

  • http://twitoaster.com/tvdnews/ tvdnews

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  • Mus1c_

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  • tiffbabe28

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  • http://www.vampireeyesonlinesource.com Naughtia

    This was a extremely important message. When I saw it last night, I felt all sorts of emotions. I was bullied in school by girls jealous of my looks for whatever reason. My brother was bullied because he is gay and this is something that needs to stop. So many feel like they have no one who cares or a place than can turn to… Vee, so glad you shared your personal story.

  • http://www.vampireeyesonlinesource.com Naughtia

    Geez, I’m getting all choked up. Red, oops. I said Vee, geez. Red you are fantastic. Cyber hug :)

  • eve

    Please Please, if you are being bullied call the number. You are NOT ALONE. Many years ago when I was in Grade and High School I was bullied. I didn’t tell anyone because I was scared,ashamed really terrified. It was the pretty popular girls the “queen girl” was the worst, and I can tell you to this very day I remember her name. I missed out on alot of special and great memories of my youth all because of the fear/terror she put me through. When I started University things got better. She did not have the intelligence to further her education. That’s what it is with bullies, they are dumb insecure idiots. Please things do get better. I wish that I told someone back then life would have been so easier, but I didn’t. So please call or tell someone, don’t be afraid. It’s funny I now have a great career,I am confident,have great friends, life is great. Things really do get better, have the courage that so many of us didn’t have TELL SOMEONE, help is there for you. Don’t be bullied not matter what anyone is telling you, you are so beautiful and so SPECIAL!!! I know it’s horrible now and your scared. Be stronger then I was, call the number. Remember things ARE going to get better.

  • Anna

    I never really got bullied myself, but my best friend did and we have known each other since he was 14 and I was 15. I had a bully of his say to me, “If he would just admit what he is and stop being different, I would leave him along.” That guy was a huge football playing jock… I cornered him one day, confronted him. Remind you I was a short, 100lbs girl and he was pushing 300lbs. I told him to back off or he would have to deal with me. He froze and looked at me blankly. I asked what he was going to do. He answered, “Leave him alone. Having some as small as you threaten me, scares me.” Later he told me that If someone as small as me was willing to take on someone like him, that I was willing to play dirty. LOL Just goes to show you that bravery is a mighty weapon. So if your friend is suffering, don’t forget to stand up for them and show that you care.

  • dakota_161

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  • Georgia Peach

    I have never been bullied, nor have I ever bullied another person. As a matter of fact, I have always stood up for the “underdog”. However, I have known family and friends that have been. My cousin is gay and has been with his partner for 38 years. Our family has never looked at their relationship has something odd, we love them both. However, the stories he has told regarding his experiences in high school and even the work place (he is retired now) are chilling and for me is hard to imagine. How another person or a group of people can harass or physically harm someone for their sexual orientation, physical appearance, etc.. is beyond my comprehension. For someone to feel that suicide is the only way out, then as a society, we are failures.

    The Trevor Project is a way to reach out to the youth and help them. “It will get better” is so true, my cousin is a testament to that.

    Thank you Katerina, Candice and Ian for being involved in such a worthy project.

  • Vamp Lover

    Thank you all so much for sharing your stories. Bulling anyone is an awful thing. That anyone would feel the need to take their own life is a tragedy. What a wonderful project for these stars to be involved with. Kudos to you all!!!!!!!

  • whatacatchmari

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