You and I are pretty much on the same page.  FYI  I’m detail and mechanics oriented.  I look at what has been said, and what has been shown and have come up with a mechanic for the Sire Bond that, when tested against every single Sire Bond related moment throughout the Series has finally proven consistent.  So much so that I’m actually impressed with JP&Co’s ability to maintain so truly over both seasons so far.  So that is where I’m coming from. 

You see inconsistencies and I’m trying to explain what I have found. For me there are no mysteries anymore in it.  It fits, and until they show something in the show that puts a wrinkle in my theory, or decide to arbitrarily change something, I’m fairly convinced of the mechanics.  As I said, I see it in motion in every scene, it just fits.  It frustrates me actually because they gave the key to Tyler and it took me too long to realize just how simple it really was.

I’m not trying too hard to make the “Vamp” and “Hybrid” bond the same, looking at them mechanically, they are.  I see you trying to hard to make them different.  The simplest method has them as the same thing, and it works throughout the show, so I’m not sure why you feel the need to separate them.  The How’s and whys are the same, what they do is the same, and it from everything they have introduced and said in interviews, the methods for dealing with them and breaking them also fit.

About the Ritual Comment: Remember, I’m all about mechanics, ie the various elements and how things work together.  Elena’s Transition (a single drop of blood put to her lips), shows me that the Transition is not so much a biological transformation, but a magical one.  Magical means a spell is at work.  Since killing an Original wipes out every single vampire of their bloodline, and since the Originals are more powerful, and they are the ones that had the spell cast on them directly, I have yet further proof that the writers believe it is magical.  She spell exists in the Original, and when they die, the magic dies with them, the spell breaks and every vampire connected to it fails (dies).  So Vamparism is Magical and to become one you have to perform the steps of the ritual.  1) have Vamp blood in your system. 2) Die, so the magic of the blood can set about remaking you.  3) introduce human blood, and apparently you need no more then a drop.  Once the ritual is completed the full magic is released and the full transformation completes.  That was long, but I wanted to show you where I was coming from when I mention a Magical Ritual related to Transition.  I did not say you said it, I said it.  Since the Transition is a magical process rather then biological or viral one, it would not be shocking that in order to fully satisfy the spell’s imperative, real fresh warm blood taken from a live human would be needed.  I do not agree with the Klaus Compels theory, but I brought this up to support your theory, because it also could fit.

On to your points.

1) I need you to link your source for JP saying they are different, because the only place I found her talking about them “being different” actually supports my point. 

The Witch said this (I’m quoting directly from the scene), “The Bond can’t be broken with Magic.  A vampire only bonds to her Sire when she has feelings for him, before she turns, human feelings.  Vamparism only heightens those emotions.  You want her free, you have to set her free.  Tell her to live her life without you, never think of you again, to stop caring about you, and then leave her.  That’s the only way around the Sire Bond.”

She never says “deeply in love with”  she says simply human feelings.  “Feelings”, plural.  While love works, so would gratitude, loyalty, Obsessed devotion, fear, etc.  Now I agree that the feelings had better be particularly potent to get magnified up into a Sire Bond, so yeah, it is probably rare.  Most Vamps we are led to believe are switched off, and as such are not really capable of fostering strong feelings in a human they Sire, which keeps it rare.  Look at the witches words.  “…only way around the Sire Bond.”  Not breaking it, bypassing it.  JP herself says that Damon did not break the Bond.  Look at what she said to do, Live without me, stop thinking of me, stop caring about me, and then leave.  All of that is simple avoidance.  JP also said, the key is to remove yourself so the Sired vamp can live without your influence.  That is what all of that does.  Not break it, bypass it.
It is not about avoiding the feelings again.  The Bond would actually MAKE them stop caring, “Stop caring about you.”.  The only explanation is because the Bond does not break, it remains enforcing the command.  100 years from now, the Sire could run into the Bonded Vamp, who won’t have thought about them in a century, and tell her, “I take back what I told you.” and boom, every block removed and they would still obey.  Nothing else makes sense.

2) Why do you have to make things complicated?  The only difference in Tyler’s Bond vs Elena’s is that Elena’s was formed from Affection, and Tyler’s from Gratitude.  The thing works exactly the same.  Now admittedly, the Werewolves are VERY grateful, and willing to forgive Klaus a lot, and slid easily into the role set up by their magnified pack instincts, the Bond however only makes them obey, and it was born out of that gratitude for saving them from a painful forced monthly transformation that controls their lives.  Feeling somebody from that would make them very grateful, so it makes sense.  Notice that with the breaking, actual breaking, of the Sire Bond, they stop obeying, but they still have all the Pack Loyalty, and insitinct to follow an Alpha, so that was not part of the Bond.  As Tyler said, even after he grew to hate Klaus he still did as he was told.  IT was not until, as Bill Forbes told him, he directly addressed the emotion that controlled the Bond, his gratitude at being free of the forced transformation that he broke the Bond.  He accepted the transformation process, became accustomed to it, mastered it, and it no longer mattered so much.  He stopped being strongly grateful at being freed, and the Bond that gratitude birthed evaporated.  Nothing in that suggests that mechaically the same thing would not work for Elena.  Her Affection created the Bond, so it stands to reason that if she stopped loving Damon, the Bond’s power would weaken and evaporate as well.  Now we know that will never happen, she’ll never work at making herself stop caring for Damon, so that Bond is never going to get broken short of her becoming human.

3) We both agree that the Bond is a lovely testament to Elena’s feelings for Damon.  Like I said, we actually agree on a lot.  Charlotte was a stereotypical psycho obsessed Girlfriend.  That was not true love, that was fan girl Obsession, and she played it well.  I’ve never felt it, but I’ve seen girls weeping that Kristien Stewart cheated on Robert Patterson, or losing it because Justin Beiber stopped and talked to them directly.  That is what Charlotte got magnified into a Bond, not deep and abiding love, so no, that is not a good example of what a “True Sire Bond” based on mature love looks like.  So no, Elena who does feel that would not act the same because she does not feel that.  She feels what she’s always felt, only magnified, which means more intensity, but otherwise the same.  Same loyaty to Stefan, same suppressed love for Damon, same protective love for Matt, same sorrow for all the people that died, same devotion to Jeremy.  All if it was stronger but the ratio’s all remained the same, so why would you expect her to act differently?

4) Klaus did not have time or opportunity to Compel Elena in tha bedroom, unless he Compelled Stefan too.  But yeah, I concede your theory could work, but they never showed even a hint of it on screen, which seems pretty poor storytelling or editing on the shows part, if true.  I also agree the man loves his misdirection, so yeah, he could have saved her for another reason, and is just making up the Cure.  That would all be in character.  For whatever reason though, he needs Elena alive, for her Blood or some other reason, so healing her was in his interests, so he did it.  No Compulsion needed.  But as I said, the theory has legs, and is hard to disprove, but still, it is reaching.  You could be right, but I’m not really a fan of that storyline if you are, so I hope you are not.

5) They showed hints of the strength of Elena’s feelings for Damon several times throughout Season 3.  The jealousy at the Bonfire, responding to the Kiss on the Porch, initiating a full blown make out session in the Motel, her loss when he was off with Katherine, her decision that they let Stefan go after Homecoming.  She literally built her life around Damon in the 6 months they spent together separated from the Younger Salvatore.  Yeah, girl loves Damon.  I contend though, and JP alludes, that Elena would have formed a Sire Bond with whichever Salvatore Sired her, she was already primed.  They decided it would be Damon, and spent Season 3 planting all the elements to set it up.

As for Klaus… Sure, he has all the motivation to manipulate them to all that you suggested.  Discovering Elena’s Sire Bond also provides him the same ammunition, and he wouldn’t need to compel at all.  I cannot directly disprove they Compulsion Theory, but I also just do not like it, and it is the harder of the two working theories to fit into place.  The natural Sire Bond fits in smoothly and still provides Klaus all the Ammo he needs to do all you said.  The man is nothing if not an opportunist.

Like you I prefer the Bond as evidence of her affection for Damon.  I like them together, and more important, I like her when she is with him.  It also makes complete sense.  If they had not made such a hugely successful case for Damon and Elena throughout Season 3, then her BS, Doomed, Cliffhanger “Choice” would not have shocked and outraged 80% of the TVD audience.  They did that on purpose and got just the reaction they wanted.

As I said at the top, we want the same thing, we even agree generally on the same things.  We differ in that I see harmony throughout TVD, and you seem to see inconsistencies.  My theory, The Bond is born and “powered” from strong feelings for the Sire, but does not control them.  The Bond makes you Obey, but since it exists soley within the mind of the new Vampire, it is dependent on the Bonded vampire’s perception of her Sire’s intent.  You measure this against any instance of the Sire Bond’s use by any of the Bonded character’s we’ve seen act, and it is remarkably consistent.  It also offers hope that just as JP said, it is a tiny obstacle, one they can manage very well once understood, leaving them the opportunity to have a real honest relationship, in spite of the Bond’s existence.

 Big picture here.  Of course Klaus likes Stefan better than Damon. In fact I think he likes Stefan a little too much.  What could the most powerful, but loneliest  being on the earth want?  We know Klaus lives for vengeance and can’t even keep a relationship going with his family.  The only person he can seem to forgive is Stefan.  Klaus always goes back to the happy times in Chicago w/Stefan.  Maybe the underpinning for this season is Klaus’ desire to rip Stefan away from everything he loves and back to him.  If I’m right about Klaus compelling Elena to switch brothers, what more effective way to drive the betrayal wedge between triangle?  Just a nudge to push Stefan towards the dark-side of his nature, by inserting anger, jealously, and rage into his mind.  I even think the Klaus play for Caroline has hidden motives, because he knows Stefan and her are close friends.  Klaus is the puppet master this season – the pieces are in place, and he’s going to watch them dance. Besides if everyone is fighting they can’t organize to attack him while he’s weak.  Just some thoughts………..  

 Good exchange. Wasn’t trying to push either side of the triangle.  In fact is both brothers have major character flaws.   The only one who loves her that’s not major f up is Matt.  That thread is just humming along in the background.

As always William that was a concise explanation. Damon is a very “intuitive” guy so I’m interested in seeing what happens to make him question if there is a way around it or if Elena has to convince him there’s a way around it because he has convinced himself none of her feelings are real. Next ep with Caroline, Stefan, Elena AND Tyler together might help clear some things up because clearly Care interpreted the sire bond stuff differently from what Tyler told her than Elena did.