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Posted by | October 11, 2012, 17:39 (MST) | 270 Comments
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Long time, no see, Vampire Diaries fans! That was one long summer hiatus, but we survived it, and we’re ready for a brand new episode. So settle down (but don’t get too comfortable, as you’re bound to be on the edge of your seats before the end) and get ready to find out just what the Fates have in store for Elena and the rest of the gang.

Once you’ve seen it and shaken yourself back to reality, swing by here to rate the new episode of The Vampire Diaries. Because the forums are no more, all discussion about the episode is welcomed and encouraged in the comments of this post. Just remember, beware of spoilers if you haven’t seen the episode yet!

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  • Georgia_Peach

     I agree that this episode was a fantastic start to Season 4.   Elena did make her choice to continue on with Stefan and reaffirmed her love to him in the premiere episode.  Elena did tell Damon she cared for him too, but she had to let him “go”.   It will be interesting to see just how long Elena will let Damon “go” before she is back wanting and needing his help, advice, attention, friendship and love.  Damon challenges her and makes her question herself and how she looks at life. As a newly turned vampire, that will not change.   Whether Elena likes it or not, Damon will always choose her life first.

    It just seems to me that Elena and Stefan need to solve their own problems together.  If the animal diet doesn’t work for her, Elena should tell Stefan….surely he would understand. Due to the fact that Elena chose Stefan while still being consumed by Damon can only lead to more problems.   In reality she was not ready to make her choice.

    I am hoping Damon does get the whole “GFY” attitude towards  Elena, Stefan and their little Mystic Falls group.  A new threat is coming to Mystic Falls and Damon can focus on that.  Teaming up with Klaus, who knows of the existence of this threat, will make for some great storytelling and happy fans.

     As a Damon fan, while the writers are telling the Stefan and Elena “epic” love story, it would be nice if they would write a love story for Damon too, which would involve a beautiful vampire that would be around for quite sometime. Damon does not need to be romantically involved with another human girl.

  • Alicep

    The Scene that stefan and Elena in the cage is soooooo…. Boring! Lucky that they have Rebecca there to save the scene.

  • midnight

    I’m sure that the DE/Damon fans who don’t like Stefan would probably agree with you.  There is a huge imbalance in the way the writers deal out happiness and compassion between the brothers on this show.   The moment Damon enjoys some happiness, it’s swiftly taken away from him again.  Not to say that Stefan is NEVER unhappy – there have been loads of times when he’s been miserable.  But he’s never been miserable and had Damon and Elena swanning around, and rubbing it in his face that he’s alone and they’re a couple.  Even when Damon kissed Elena in 3×10 and 3×19 they never did that.  It can be very difficult to be able to sit back and enjoy watching SE because I can’t enjoy that they’re together while Damon doesn’t have anyone.  It doesn’t seem fair that they can and should be so happy when he’s left in the cold again and again.  SE would be much easier to stomach if the writers didn’t keep throwing them parties that Damon wasn’t invited to.  
    I thought the DE scene and Damon’s speech in 4×01 was amazing.  He was absolutely right, and she knew it.  She couldn’t come up with a clever counter-argument.  She didn’t say anything because she knew there was nothing she could say that would make sense.  Her entire logic about Damon being in the wrong for saving her is utterly daft.  I could write an essay about it.  But I won’t – it would take too long. 
    I was baffled by Stefan’s hot and cold approach to Elena last season.  “I don’t think I deserve your love, so I’m gonna make you hate me instead.”  “She’s not my problem anymore, she’s YOUR problem Damon.”  “I’m pretty sure I still want you but I’m not going to pursue you.”  “I’m backing off so you can figure out what your feelings for Damon are…and then I’m not going to discuss them when you get home.”  “OK, I still want you.  Let’s go.”  I mean, talk about confusing.  The continuity between 3×19 and 3×20 was non-existent.  You would think the first thing they would have done was sit down and have a serious talk about what they’d been through, what Elena’s feelings for Damon were, where they were going, and what they both wanted.  That was the whole point of the trip to Denver, wasn’t it?  What did they do?  They went dancing together.  It was SO weird.

  • ihatepeople

    I was glad that Damon pointed out to Elena how flawed her thinking was because she wasn’t going to see it for herself. For once he actually stood up for himself instead of allowing her to assume what she wants about him. I’m not sure it completely registered with her though because she has great difficulty admitting she’s wrong, at least to him. I can’t remember her saying she was sorry to him when she’s been wrong. Maybe it will sink in over time who knows?

    The inequity between the brothers’ happiness and treatment by others has always been hard for me to accept. I keep expecting something to turn around for Damon but it never does. For me it implies that he’s unworthy of happiness which I don’t believe is true for anyone. Also I’ve never liked how Damon’s character has been toyed with all to prove SE’s unbreakable bond. If it truly is unbreakable you should be able to prove it without sacrificing the happiness of another character over and over.

  • Georgia_Peach

     The Vampire Diaries came back with a bang and I loved the first episode.  I honestly believe this season is going to be fantastic. 

    However, when it comes to the whole Delena and Stelena thingy…….

    All I can say is that the Damon fans and the Delena fans have been waiting for something to actually happen between Damon and Elena so a love triangle will actually form. They have been waiting for three years.  Elena saying Damon consumes her, but never going there with him is meaningless.  Until it actually happens I don’t see how anyone can judge whether they will like it or not. 

    I feel like I am watching Stefan and Elena doing kissy face on the Gilbert front porch over and over again while Damon is waiting in his car to drive Stefan home.  That is not a love triangle.  There is only so much of that which can be shown before it is too redundant.  Elena has chosen Stefan  irregardless of what he has done.  Elena told Damon she was letting him go, so Damon needs to move on. 

    At this point it is ridiculous for Elena to go to Damon if she has a problem  It needs to be worked out with Stefan.  At least let that be a progression in the Stelena relationship.  However, I’m sure Damon will take every opportunity to take a jab at Stefan with some of the best sarcasm imaginable due to the fact that Damon will never understand or accept the fact that Stefan did not put Elena’s life first….. and she died. 

    I’m just thankful for the Originals and the stories that can be built around them.  The newly forming Klaus, Caroline, Tyler love triangle has already surpassed what was suppose to be the main theme love triangle between Damon, Elena and Stefan, plus the writers have managed to do it with humor.

    As a 100% Damon fan, it would be nice if the writers would see fit to give him a love interest that isn’t going to be killed off within 6 episodes, or one that continuously chooses his brother.  It has been a disservice to the Damon fans. At this point I don’t care if Elena ever chooses Damon, unless she can let Stefan “go”.   As a Damon fan, I would just like something for him that could be true to the heart.  Unfortunately in that respect, Julie has said Damon will not be getting or looking for a love interest, but will be focusing his efforts on a new threat coming to town. 

    Also, Elena becoming a vampire is going to cause a problem for the Stelena lovebirds.  At this point who knows what that means, but I highly expect it to be her feeding habits.  I am very much looking forward to Elena as a vampire….a force of nature all on her own.  Hopefully as the season progresses, she will no longer be portrayed as a damsel in distress. 

  • dman

    Some of your arguments are very valid (and funny, BTW. Ha!), but what you and other DE fans fail to realize, time and time again, is that Damon is suppose to suffer. He’s suppose to go through all the pain and misery. He’s not suppose to get what he wants. That’s the way his character is written. And because of all the crap he goes through, you, as viewers, sympathize. It’s similar to Spike on Buffy. Both him and Damon came onto the scene as complete badasses. Snarky, cocky, bastards that were full of themselves. They took what they wanted and didn’t give a crap what anyone thought. Then they were knock down a peg, fell in love, and voila – long road to redemption here we come. This storyline has been done a million times. And eventually, after enough pain and torture, with lessons learned, they rise from the proverbial ashes, a changed man.

    The writers know what they’re doing. Non of this is by coincidence, or some sadistic need to torture Damon fans. It’s well thought out. You DE fans just need to realize he’s on a journey and accept that. The more you accept the situation, the better off you’ll be. And eventually, Damon will get what’s coming to him. Mark my words, before this season is over, Damon and Elena will be together, or at-least on the cusp of being together. As much as I don’t want to admit it, that’s where the story is going.

  • Hilarious

    Did anyone else laugh hysterically after Damon rips into Matt’s neck and calls to the house saying, “Yooo whoo!” ?? With the blood on his lips… looking a little drunk… Matt moaning on the ground in pain… I was on the floor ;)

  • Empress

    I had to keep explaining how each character was linked in the Mystic Falls mania to my husband. It made me realise what a complex and layered show VD is. All the characters have a key role and their own “agenda”. LOVE IT!!!!

  • nick

    Please do not generalize all Ian/Damon fans as 12-year-old girls. I am way way beyond 12 but a huge fan of the actor and the character.

  • †_ṂῘⱤ₳∏ƉΔ_†

    haha I see you are a little bit more optimistic yes! It’s nice to see, but at the same time, if you live with pessimism the blow is lighter in the end when things don’t go the way you hoped… If 10-12 episodes in I see no changes…. I shall mentally prepare myself for the worst I think :/

  • †_ṂῘⱤ₳∏ƉΔ_†

    uff but are the excuses? of are the writers just throwing team Delena bones? :(

    Edit: Crappy, totally meat free boney-ass bones… haha

  • ihatepeople

    Yeah every now and again I fall victim to optimism. LOL. You’re right about the reason for remaining pessimistic (or realistic some might say). The fall to disappointment isn’t as far if your hopes aren’t that high. :)

  • Infidelz

    ELIJAH needs to come back sooner and stay longer!!  :)

  • SN

    I’m a fan of Ian’s too, but I can’t respect a character (Damon) who does whatever he likes and then kills people when things don’t go his way. I don’t care how pretty he is. If you were a 12-year-old I could forgive you for your misguided feelings, but since you’re not … you should really re-evaluate why you loooove Damon.

  • SN

    I’m a fan of Ian’s too, but I can’t respect a character (Damon) who does whatever he likes and then kills people when things don’t go his way. I don’t care how pretty he is. If you were a 12-year-old I could forgive you for your misguided feelings, but since you’re not … you should really re-evaluate why you loooove Damon.

  • Kcnsean

    I thought this episode was just okay.  I didn’t like how they did the scene where Elena remembered Damon confessing his love for her because the music was terrible and the new scenes added did not blend with the old ones.  I also thought due to her reaction it didn’t seem to phase her. 

    After waiting for so long I thought this episode would be better and I was disappointed.  Too much Bonnie stuff in this episode for my taste and I thought the scenes between Elena and Damon were few and could have been written better.

  • Ella m mrs salvatore

    I cried I die until I know Stefan is safe again


    You are a f**king bum.

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